The art of maintaining personal relations to remain professional

In the dynamics of groups both in organizations, communities, and friction work teams are inevitable. Differences of opinion, leadership styles, to personal values often triggers tensions that can interfere with harmony in cooperation that has long been built. However, conflict does not always have to mean the end of the relationship. Precisely from that tension, we can learn to form a type of resistance that is constructive, not damaging, the resistance that is a turning point towards the maturity of the relationship.

Imagine a student organization that was busy designing a large campus event. Inside there are two old friends, Dina and Fira, who have often worked together and understand each other. However, in an important meeting, the decision taken without involving Dina’s voice made him feel ignored. While Fira, as chairman, felt he had acted for the smooth running of the event. Since then, their communication began to be tenuous, the conversation became more, warmth slowly faded. For others, this might be just a small thing. But for both of them, there is an unappreciated feeling that is getting more and more settled.

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This kind of situation is very common. When feeling injured or not considered, the response that appears is usually in the form of a form of resistance. But not all forms of resistance brings goodness. There are those who choose silence as a form of protest, some convey satire, and not infrequently also exploded in anger. Unfortunately, these methods often widen the abyss, not bridging differences.

In fact, healthy resistance is not about suppressing disappointment or pretending to be fine. Conversely, this is about the courage to be honest while still respecting relationships. This is where communication plays a crucial role. But certainly not just any communication but communication rooted in empathy and reflection, not assumptions and accusations.

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The key is not lies in who is the most correct, but to who is willing to open a listening room. In the case of Dina and Fira, maybe Fira did not realize that his decision gave the impression that his friend’s voice was not important. While Dina, might be too late in personal feelings that he did not see the pressure being faced by Fira. If the two were able to step back for a moment to see the perspective of each other, maybe their relationship does not have to be that cold.

Soothing communication does not always need complicated language. Sometimes enough with calm honesty. Said, “I feel ignored when my opinion is not responded to, even though I want to contribute,” much more constructive than attacking sentences like, “You really never respect me!” The first sentence invites to understand, the second forces to defend themselves. On the other hand, listening actively is also a form of resistance to the ego that wants to always reply.

In the work team, personal relations are often tested by formal structures. When someone is given the responsibility as a leader, relations can be displaced to just coordinate the task. So it is important to remember that the authority in the group should not erase mutual respect. A good resistance arises when team members dare to express their opinions without fear, and the leader is able to welcome criticism as part of the process of growing together.

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Maintaining harmony in tension requires emotional maturity. Not infrequently we are tempted to immediately reply, defend ourselves, or even decide to stay away. In fact, what is often needed is just a moment to reflect, give space for clarification, and understand that we are dealing not only with arguments, but also feelings.

When resistance is processed wisely, he can actually fertilize maturity in relationships. Dina and Fira, after passing all the tension, finally chose to sit together at the end of the event. They talk from heart to heart, not to look for who is the most correct, but to understand each other. Their honesty not only restores communication, but also strengthens the foundation of their friendship.

A healthy relationship is not free of conflict, but that is able to survive and grow through conflict. In the professional world, we are demanded to be efficient and objective, but that does not mean we have to turn off our human side. It is precisely a solid team is a team whose members are honest, mutual understanding, and look after each other even in the midst of pressure, differences in views, and situations are not ideal.

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A good resistance is a conscious choice to keep caring, even though it is disappointed. He is not about silencing feelings, but rather expressing it with sincerity. In communication, words can be a weapon or bridge and we always have a choice. Every conflict brings an opportunity, whether to improve or to damage. The only difference is the way we respond.

When everything is finished, not only the success of the event or work achievement that will be remembered, but a relationship that remains intact, even stronger, because it has made it through the storm with a cool head and open heart. That’s where the true meaning of wise resistance: he is not to win alone, but to win together.

Writer: trough
Editor: Rara Zaryry